Is this LOVE?

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Is this LOVE? [Conversation between two families]

 

 

In this picture the bride and groom takes their final round of the Holy Book Guru Granth Sahib.

This is the last ritual done before the marriage can be annouced.

 

 

 

 

The picture above shows the similarity between modern and traditional marriages. Henna is and was used in both modern and traditional weddings. These traditions will never die.

 

      There are many differences between the traditional dates and weddings in India compared to the more modern dates and weddings that India has now. In India, traditionally, the parents decide who their child is going to marry. When the girl marries the guy, the girl's family has to pay a dowry to the guy's family. In the wedding their are many rituals that are preformed before the girl and guy can be pronounced man and wife. Dating with a person that will not be your future wife or husband is not allowed. Now that India is more westernized, dating is allowed even though some families still follow the traditional way of the getting married. Sometimes, someone is allowed to date anyone before they get marry but then they will have to marry the person that their parents choose. Since people are allowed to date and marry whomever they want to marry, there are less traditional weddings now than there was in the past. Weddings are now more modernized were the man wears a suit and the women wears a wedding gown instead of the traditional outfit. Still, there are still some traditional things that happen at the weddings. Sometimes, the couple will wear the traditional outfit and many jewerly and henna that is from the traditional marriages. Sometimes, the traditional rituals are still preformed in the modern weddings.  The differences between modern and traditional dating and marriage also is differentiated from north and south India. Differnet rituals and things are done in the north and the south.Since some people are allowed to date, there are many dating sites were Indians can find other Indians that they might want to date. There are many differences in the traditional and modern Indian dating and weddings but the modern wedding and dating sitll has links to the more tradtional dating and weddings.

[Conversation between two families] 

Sai ~ Girl's Father

Vishy ~ To be groom

Varsha ~ To be Bride

Sita ~ Girl's Mom

Meela ~ Boy's Mother

Rakesh ~ Boy's Father

 

Girls House- India

 

Sai ~ Welcome to our house, hope you had a great flight.

Rakesh ~ Thank You, we had a wonderful flight

Meela ~ Were is the bride to be?

Sita~ Oh she is on the way, she went to the temple

Meela ~ What a wonderful girl, I am sure she is the perfect daughter in law.

Sita ~ That is very nice of you to say, she will be here in a few minutes. I have chosen few things for Varsha to wear, come I will show you.

Meela ~ Yes, lets go.

 (Sita and Meela leave)

 

Sai ~ Where is Vishal, is his flight running late?

Rakesh ~ Yes, he will be here soon, he just called and let us know he landed at the airport.

Sai ~ Where is your son residing in the U.S.?

Rakesh ~ He is currently living in Los Angeles, he just completed his J.D. and M.B.A. at Stanford University. He is looking for a job, so we decided it is the right time to look for a bride for him.

Sai ~ Standford is where our Varsha attended, she also just finished her J.D., she is also currenly living in Los Angeles. Maybe they already know each other?

Rakesh ~ That would be very good, we will quicky be one family.

 

 

 [Varsha enters]

 

Varsha ~ Hi dad, I have some prasad for you and mom. Hello, uncle. (whispers to her dad) Who is that uncle?

Sai ~ Oh, yes this is your future father-in-law. Remember, I told you this morning we will be having a few vistors come to our house today.

Varsha ~ Yes, but I did not know that it would be a marriage thing.

Rakesh ~ Varsha, what is their to worry we already love you and my wife has already said you will be the perfect daughter in law.

Varsha ~ That is very nice of you, but this is all so sudden.

Sai ~ Varsha, I do not want to hear another word, go inside, your mother is waiting for you.

Varsha ~ Yes, dad.

 

[Varsha exits and enters the other room, mean while Vishy(Vishal) enters.]

 

Vishal ~ Hello, Dad , uncle. It is very nice to meet you.

Sai ~ Ahh, my handsome future son in law. It is very nice to meet you. Here comes your mother, and your future mother in law.

Sita ~ He is very handsome, here comes our daughter with the coffee.

Varsha ~ Hello, please take some coffee.

Meela ~ Leave the coffee on the table, we will get it. Vishal, you and Varsha go talk for a while.

Vishal and Varsha ~ Ok, we will be in the back.

 

[Parents chat]

 

[The kids go to the back and chat]

 

Sai and Rakesh ~ What have you two decided?

Meela ~ Yes, are you sure about this engagement?

Vishal ~ We both are very sure that...

Varsha ~ we definetly want to get married. Mom and Dad you picked a very caring person for me to marry.

Rakesh ~ Well, then we will have the engagement party in two, maybe three weeks.

Sita ~ We will take care of that, everyone take your coffee.

 

 

 

 

 

 This is a wedding in a more modern family, with a splash of tradition. The second pictures portrays a more simple, traditional wedding. Both pictures show the tug of war between modern and traditional families, and also show the modern vs. tradition tug of war within families.

 

Works Cited

 

Sharad."No Turning Back From Here." Photo. Flickr.17 Mar. 2008. 2 May 2008. <http://www.flickr.com/photos/sharad_gupta/2340152754/>.

 

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